Improving the relationship with our body is a consistent, on-going one. When we can take the steps to remove that which is fueling anything less than love + surround ourselves with those that fill us, we are not only making steps to changing personal programing, but cultural, as well. And I get it, there are so many articles out there about self-love + body love, yet if you've actually read them, many of them give lofty ideas that aren't easy or practical steps meeting you wh

When you call your retreat a re-wilding experience, be prepared for what you ask for. The moment we walked onto the Tulili Retreat Center 20 minutes into the dense Mayan jungles, we knew we were in the perfect location. A spacious, yet quaint property held so perfectly among the trees + wild nature, far away from the city noise, created a safe container to hold the magic of what was to unfold the week to come. We were joined by 17 women coming from all walks of life and rangi

How good can we stand it? How much pleasure can we hold? The potential? Infinite. Yet our conditioning says only so much. Hitting the edge of what we’ve known to hold before, activates the internal alarm. All security responds as if to bring us back down to where it’s comfortable. Familiar. We’ve never had so much $ in our bank account before We’ve never felt so much love in relationship before. We’ve never held so much success in business before. We’ve never held so much res

Imagine waking up every morning to the sounds of the jungle, being kissed by the warm rays of the sun, misted by the waters of the salty ocean, getting playful among a family of like-minded individuals, coming home to your body, and diving deep into the workings of your heart to expand your pleasure and relationship potential. This was the essence of our Discovering Intimacy Retreat held in the beautiful land of Nosara, Costa Rica. For many of us we are going about our lives

“I fear I will never find love.” This is probably the number one fear/question I hear from men and women alike. And while I’m not a psychic (well…) to be able to tell you how this circumstance will unfold, I can give you a download to consider. We all enter into relationships with different needs, images, and intentions for union that have been formulated from our life experiences. As young children, the first understanding of what ‘relationship’ or ‘love’ was came from viewi

What do we imagine when we say the words “relationship” or “commitment” or “marriage”? Two individuals committing their life, sex, intimate self-knowledge, and dreams together? Or how about three individuals sharing a house, kids, sexual adventures together and a part, and plans for the future? We all enter into relationships having different expectations, desires, curiosities, and needs, and yet we often don’t realize we have these until they aren’t being met and we are feel

What does it mean to “hold space,” and why has it become such a buzz word? Holding space is creating an environment with your own presence for someone to feel safe enough to be vulnerable and share their process–whatever this looks like. It is a privilege to hold space, as the person you are witnessing is trusting you to see an internal world that they may not feel is pretty. You don’t have to agree, just listen and show that you see them. What powerful medicine when someone

I hear talk among friends and colleagues about their latest endeavors in dating and sex, all of whom are trying to figure out the “right” approach to keeping someone interested. Contrary to the popular magazine covers, there are no secret ingredients that work across the board for everyone and every situation. And why is this? Because not everyone is supposed to be romantically or intimately connected and coupled with everyone else. It’s got nothing to do with your value, my

Have you ever been in the throws of sexual play only to start running through your to-do list in your head? Or start analyzing and judging what was going on? Or start thinking you looked fat at this angle or that your partner needed to trim their eyebrows? I know. We get in our heads. But that doesn’t mean we have to stay here. Mindful sex can be an incredibly powerful and expansive experience for all parties involved. Why is that, and how can we create a more present activit

Ritual as in sex magic?? Only if you want it to be, but in this article I’m sharing with you the power in creating the sex and sensual lifestyle that you’ve been wanting. To live a life with more sensuality and embodiment, we must make it a regular practice for ourselves. It isn’t just a one time act and BOOM I’m embodied. At the same time, these busy, hectic lives that we lead can make it difficult to imagine space for such a practice. We want to catch a break, but they don’

“He’s just like all the others–distant, only texting me when he feels like it, but then he says he loves me and I just feel so good.” While the people we date may be different, we often find ourselves dating similar patterns. What’s funny is that we perceive the ‘bad boy syndrome’ is generalized to the public population. Why do all the women go for the bad boy? It may actually be more complex than that. Over the course of our adult lifetimes, including the time as children, w

What are chakras and what can they tell us about our state of well-being? In the tradition, chakras are  vortexes of energy spinning in various areas of our body. Most often we refer to 7 primary chakras, although different traditions list anywhere from 12 to hundreds within our own being. The chakra system is a powerful model to describe the interconnection between the emotional, physical, and energetic realms of each of our existences. For instance, each of these 7 chakras

Have you ever wondered how some people float through their daily lives as if they were making love to everything in their path? Or how we can get better connected and in-sync with our partner(s) in sex? Or how we can have incredible, primal or cosmic sexual experiences with a partner or by ourselves ? It starts with getting embodied, meaning dropping down, getting grounded, and experiencing the world from here. Embodiment occurs as a result from continual practice. It’s not a

Are you ‘safe’ in your relationship? Over time, relationships change, expand, end as the people within them change and evolve. There is no real guarantee that a relationship won’t end. Labels do not even guarantee the security of a relationship forever–not girlfriend, husband, primary, boo. This fact can either cause anxiety and fear, anticipating the end and amp up our actions for closeness or avoidance OR you acknowledge the fact and chill the f* out. Realize that safety in

“How long should I wait to have sex with him/her?” “Am I devaluing myself if I have sex with him on the first date?” It does not really matter. It’s like when someone asks you how long you’ve been when your flame and you realize you’ve only been together for 1 month, yet the depths of this time together have been expansive. Or like those short term relationships that didn’t last, but were monumental in your personal evolution. Time is not what we should be so hard focused on,

Navigating any type of relationship comes with its own unique (and not so unique) challenges. Navigating open or poly relationships are no exception. While it gives us permission to think beyond the conventional ideology of ‘relationship’ and think about what it really is that we want, we must remember that there are other human hearts who in a co-creator role and also have feelings and desires that may or may not compliment our own. Here are 4 questions to stimulate self-inq

What is partner yoga and why do we flow together? Traditionally, yoga is seen as an individual practice, but Partner Yoga brings two or more people together through movement, play, breath, touch, and intimacy. The practice can vary from including asanas that are partner-assisted–in which one partner adjusts the other into a deeper expression; simultaneous flow; or involve balancing off one another–as in acro yoga. The benefits of yoga and relational and sexual life are abunda

“My man isn’t showing up for me powerfully. How can I get him to step up?” I hear this statement made so often from women who are not feeling supported or getting their needs met in the relationship. For some relationships, resentment builds and for others this is the reason they end. Yet what does it mean to ‘show up powerfully’ and is it something that can be effectively fixed? To show up in a relationship means to be present, attentive, and participating in the co-creation

Your partnership is perfect…except for the sex. I’ve been getting this statement so much from people who are afraid that they are with the wrong person because the sex isn’t FIRE like they’ve had before or dream about having one day. First of all, just because your sex hasn’t inflamed YET doesn’t mean that it a) won’t b) can’t. Sex is the alchemy of two people coming together, and ALL the past experiences, trauma, insecurities, expectations, family messages, past negative sex

We think that being in long-term relationships equals the slow death of our sex life. While some couples can allow this fate to happen, it does not have to be your reality. Whether you are the wild woman feeling crushed by the repeated ‘not now, honey’ of your partner, or the badass, power women with no libido juice after working excessive hours on her empire, there’s still hope for a exciting sex life! You will have to make it a priority; however, and check out some of these