For most children “good enough” parenting, enough of the time is all that’s needed for healthy development. At the same time, since children are exquisitely sensitive and adaptive they pick up on their parents’ nuanced non-verbal messages about what their parents can handle. Moreover, each child has her own temperament, sensitivities, sensory thresholds and biological rhythms that also impact how she interprets her parents’ intentions, how easily she is comforted or soothed