Life With Narcissist - Lessons Learned. Irene Erin Aslin "Through the Clouds." Have you ever been in relationship with narcissist - so called energy vampires, ego-centered, abusive personalities? Have you ever found yourself been emotionally abused, when there are no visible scars and bruises but your whole being’s hurt to the core, your energy’s depleted and all you can do is lose your self-esteem, your self-worth submitting more and more to your abuser until he either destr