We are naturally curious, but not naturally fearful. A baby is born with only two natural fears: fear of falling and fear of loud noises. As adults, we still experience these two natural fears. All other fears are learned. You enter your adult life with a collection of your family's and society's unresolved fears and anxieties. It might be a fear of failure, of being judged, being embarrassed, being not good enough. You internalise those fears and feel like they are your own.

What is your relationship like with the most important person in your life? Who might that person be you may wonder. Is it your partner? Your child? One or both of your parents? Which one of those special people makes your world go round? Have you chosen? Would you be surprised if I told you that it's none of the above? 'Not even my baby?!' Nope. Not even her. Pick up a mirror and look at the most important person you have - YOU. Look into your eyes; take notice of your facia

There are 9 chapters in my book. I knew there were supposed to be 10. I was not sure why; I just knew. However, I just could not think of anything else of value that I could share with you through the book. Well, I have a confession to make - I have missed a very important bit out. If you think about it, it was quite an obvious topic to cover. I am talking about self care; about really looking after yourself via connecting to your feelings and emotions on a deeper level. Sayi

Yep, that`s right. Once upon a time I was one. I could not sleep even when my baby slept, because sudden infant death syndrome frightened the shit out of me. The fact that boys are more prone to it than girls did not sit comfortably with me either. I just didn`t want my son to die! Was that too much to ask?! What did I do? I “half-slept” (yeah it is a thing), I bought night light for my bedroom, I hardly ever covered him with a duvet (only up to his waistline), I checked if h

On Friday the 27th of September I went to an event called the Social Media Summit. It was organised by Mums in Business Association (MIBA); it was held in Leicester (about 40 minutes on the train from where I live). I got the ticket a couple of months prior to the event and was extremely excited about it. I just could not wait! A few days before the Summit, I received an e-mail inviting me to the official book launch of MIBA Autobiography (by Estelle Keeber and Leona Burton,

Inner beauty...what comes to mind when you hear those words? Do you feel inspired thinking about it? Or, on the contrary, deflated and a bit confused? The truth is that inner beauty is the only thing that matters, because it encompasses every single aspect of you: compassion, empathy, love, kindness, rawness, vulnerability, strength, weakness, pain, joy, intention and many more other wonderful things that you hold within yourself, ready to offer to the world whenever it is re

Last week I shared a video of me delivering my speech to a live audience, as part of The Speak Up Challenge course. I received great feedback in comments as well as in person. To be honest, I was also very happy with my performance and really and truly proud of myself. I consider it being a huge achievement. But... When I first saw the pictures and the video of me on the night, all I could think about was that I have put on weight! How bad is that?! There I was, doing somethi

Both of my babies were delivered via caesarean section. I had a 'legitimate' reason for my son to be brought into the world that way, because he was breech all the way through my pregnancy and I was given the choice to have a C section. I did some research (Google) and figured out that the chances of me pushing him out legs first were very slim. I was, however, offered to go into labour naturally. ‘That way you would know that at least you have tried’, my midwife said at one

'I'm just going to put them to sleep and then ...' I say to myself pretty much every evening. The list is endless; I plan to read, write, work on my website, create a workshop, set up online counselling sessions and many other things. You may notice that cleaning and cooking are not on that list. Damn righ they are not; they either get done when the children are awake or they don't get done at all. Finally, after endless story-telling, singing, having what seems like a hundre

Wednesday the 21st of August 2019, one of the most important days of my life, has finally arrived. I have been waiting for it with excitement and anticipation. I was a bit nervous too, I'm not gonna lie. However, I made a promise to myself to focus on my message and on how brave I was to do what I was about to do. My morning wasn't any different from my other mornings - breakfast for the children and myself, getting everyone washed and dressed, out to the park, back home for

‘All you have to do to fit in is to just keep your mouth shut,’ was the advice one of my friends gave me a few years ago when we were discussing an issue I was trying to overcome at the time. It happened about thirteen years ago, when I was still studying for my Bachelor`s Degree. I was going through a bit of a vulnerable time after facing some incidents of discrimination which were a huge blow to my confidence. They were not serious incidents; just some unpleasant comments a

"I didn't manage to have a shower this morning!" is a phrase I hardly ever use these days in conversations with my child-free friends. All because I cannot handle the look of disbelief (read disguist😅) on their shocked faces. My "mummy" friends, however, get to hear all of that loveliness on a regular basis. Who am I kidding? They get to live it too. A few days ago, in one of my posts, I shared a bit of my personal story and how especially challenging the first few months (r

Every day, a couple of dozen times, my 20-months old daughter Emily celebrates doing a wee on a potty. When I say she celebrates, I mean she CELEBRATES! She starts with doing a little dance while clapping her hands and shouting proudly to me, 'Mama! I did a wee!' She then points to it with her tiny cute index finger to make sure I know exactly what she is so excited about. I tell her what a clever girl she is. We kiss and clap our hands while jumping up and down together. It

One-way ticket On the 14th of September 2004 I was at the airport in Tallinn with a one-way ticket to London Gatwick. It has only been about two months since I decided to move abroad with an excuse of going to university. Don't get me wrong, I wanted to study and get a qualification, but that was not the end goal. I wanted to leave, to find something different, something bigger. I didn't know what it was and I don't think I even asked myself that question. As far as everyone

Continuing with the theme of my previous blog about the importance of being kind to yourself, I have decided to elaborate on each of the three acts of kindness I shared with you previously. I will start with positive affirmations, how they work and how they can improve the quality of your life, because I have received a few messages asking me to say a little bit more on the topic. What is a positive affirmation? A positive affirmation is an empowering statement that you say t

One of the simplest things you can do right now to take your life to the next (higher) level is to start being kind to yourself. What do I mean by that? I mean directed, focussed, dynamic action and not just a nice thought. It is the act of kindness that really makes a difference. In the last eight months I have accomplished more than I have done in the last eight years! How? I started being kind to myself. You can do that too. Start doing the three powerful, fun and simple t