Battling multiple identities can and is complex, there is always a niggle at the back of my head when meeting new people as to just how open about life to be. Do they need to know my complicated history of mental ill health? Do they need to know I'm pansexual, gender fluid and polyam? It will become clear I'm a parent but does it need to be said out loud? Or are or is there a way of keeping these things contained, bit like the elusive round peg fitting snug in a round hole,