Is It about We, or Me?
"This is the ultimate challenge for those wanting a truly great relationship-- how do I remain "me" while having a deep, intimate relationship with 'you'?" (John & Linda Friel, The 7 Best Things Happy Couples Do) I coach a lot of marriages where one spouse does more "me," and the other does more "we." What gets lost is how the whole choice is a false dichotomy. It's not an either/or--the best spouses find a way to strengthen themselves, and their marriages, at the same time.